Men, if you say that you understand women, you are simply not telling the truth. Oh, you may know a few things about them, but be honest, they are simply so different from the male mind as to be incomprehensible most of the time. Learn to love it and keeping trying to understand; who knows, you might just get through the pocket edition, 1st chapter, above. But, understanding is a two way street and the ladies out there need to attempt to understand the male of the species as well. Since God is always referred to as being "male" in the scriptures, understanding what He wants for you is important as well. Here is a small portion of what is important...
WEB: I Peter Chapter 3
 In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word;  seeing your pure behavior in fear.  Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on fine clothing;  but in the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God very precious.  For this is how the holy women before, who hoped in God also adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands:  as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose children you now are, if you do well, and are not put in fear by any terror.
 You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered.
Love means attempting to understanding another and this applies to women as well as men. From this passage, submission to husbands, reverent faith along with a quietness of spirit and a beauty that is internal are the focus. Whereas men are naturally more forceful in nature, ladies should be less so. This isn't my idea, it comes from the Bible. Responsiblity for implimenting this goes right back to the husband, so once again, he is the focal point. And he better listen, for if he doesn't God may not listen to his prayers (verse 7). I am not a "know it all" in these matters; I have a wife of 44 years and daughters and granddaughters and I still don't get them most of the time. All I really know is what the Bible teaches me, but sometimes I don't think I really understand all of its teachings on the subject. Maybe I should see where I can buy the pocket edition of understanding women... it might help...???